But I of course would also like more. I have friends now! It’s been years, yet it still feels like a new blog that I’m just discovering. It’s been nice to reconnect with him and it made me realize just how much I miss his friendship. You just never know.Big hugs to you, so sorry for your loss and really glad your community has been able to step up even if not in person xx…or have you never felt more alone lying in bed next to your husband of 19 years?This pandemic is very hard on couples stuck together in a space where they could previously avoid issues. I was having the same thought about showing grace; these are strange, unprecedented times and we are all coping the best ways we know how. She may love to hear she is missed.I’ve been DYING to hear from someone random, just to feel alive. I’ve come to accept that this may just be our roles in life/friendships, just as there are other people who aren’t naturally gifted in these areas. There are a few people on my mind, but I have no way to reach them.It’s interesting seeing who I’m talking to! I’m also moving back to the state I grew up in, where a lot of these women live, and I am genuinely hoping I reconnect with some of them–isolation in pregnancy has made it glaringly obvious the power of having “mom friends.” Especially as I get closer to her due date, I’m glad I did the awkward thing and have new/renewed friendships for when I am trying to breastfeed at night or am baffled by the poop situation coming my way!I have a three year old and would love to part of your girl gang! We’ve also reconnected with old friends who moved away from our hometown and we haven’t seen in person for years – suddenly we’ve realised socialising online is an option. “Dorothy, you are the best thing ever. But talking to him on the phone every day, we also have nice chats. Responding to what the other said, talking about random stuff, filling the other in on our day, and reminiscing about college. He reached out to see if I was okay (and also clearly to flirt). !Between the ages of 19 and 23 (30-ish years ago), I was in a relationship with a lovely boy whose mother I absolutely adored, like I wish she’d been my own mother. :) Thank you, this hit home for me! !Today my best friend and I were talking about an article on Man Repeller about wanting to feel hot again during quarantine. We should start a COJ facebook group but moderate it from bulliesI heard from a high school/college boyfriend who texted that he hoped me and my family were well…we dated 10 years ago and I would have been surprised to hear from him except he called me on Christmas Eve this year while I was in the grocery store with my sister, to tell me that he had just driven past my parents on the interstate (they were on their way to stay with me).
I emailed her this week to she if she was okay in this pandemic and she responded and asked how I was too. Thank you for the update. We were completely incommunicado for many years, and then I reached out, which led to a lunch date and a heartfelt apology on her part. Like H, I spent a lot of time obsessing over my sparse social network, but have felt like the quarantine brought everyone down to my level of social engagement haha.I try to remind myself of a few things when I’m feeling lonely.Awwww, I’m the original “H” poster here. He’d watched Sliding Doors so he’d understand what I was saying. For the things I kept, I came back to wanting them to be connected to love – for example a sofa that had been the site for so many difficult conversations. He told me he’d had a crush on me in university but pushed it aside because we were both dating other people. He was the first man I cared about post-divorce.
But for real, making friends as a grown up is hard, so I hope this mandated “no making friends” time serves you and your heart well Hi H! I hope my friends are not going to abandon me for not reaching out at this time. We had a meet cute reunion while hiking the same trail – decades had passed so it was pretty wild.
So I decided to make them happen for others.
And read Peggy Orenstein if you are looking for a good book. I’m strictly on social media because I own a small business.I feel this so much. Then one day you’ll make it to lunchtime. This is to be expected and something I have learned to accept, but wow, it was such a treat to hear from this person!Yes! What a kind comment. Now they’re having a Zoom coffee date! Go to youtube and type in the search box HOW I HEALED MY BROKEN HEART. That won’t last forever. And I hope there is something in your home – music, art, an episode of your favourite show – that will make you feel comforted.Allison, your comment made me smile and feel loved. I asked my close friends (whom I couldn’t hug!) We spent an afternoon in the park, and I fell further. I hope that they give me grace in these circumstances and don’t make it some kind of marker of our friendship.This resonates with me, as an introvert who must–for her own sanity–have alone time at the end of a busy work/kids/partner day. She may not even respond, which would hurt even more. I’ll keep telling myself that story instead.My best friend from childhood reached out to me!
Anyway, we ended on a friendly note and hopefully he’ll reconsider socializing in the future once things open up.